Prompt: What do we owe our parents?
We owe our parents everything. Without them, we would not exist. We wouldn’t be here. We wouldn’t be anywhere.
And yet, at the same time, we owe our parents nothing. We didn’t ask to be born, to be brought into this world. We didn’t ask to exist.
If we love our lives, if we affirm the joy of existence, we can express our gratitude and thank our parents. If on the other hand we hate our lives, if we wish we didn’t exist, we can blame our parents.
Most of us will probably experience both of these extremes at some point in our lives. Most of the time, we will probably be somewhere in between. The trick of an excellent life is to bend our thoughts and actions ever toward the joyful affirmation.
Try writing a letter to your parents, thanking them for everything they’ve ever done or been for you. This exercise can have enormous benefits, not just for your parents but for yourself.
Furthermore, it must be acknowledged that while parents can be heroic, some are monsters. If your parents are truly monstrous, you will surely have some special challenges. Ultimately, you may be able to affirm the joy of existence in spite of your parents. You may never be inspired to thank them, but if you can, it will be a triumph. As long as we resent someone, they hold our spirit captive.